I’m a romantic. I love the idea of being in a loving relationship where, even 20 years down the track, you still feel completely into that person. Where you still enjoy spending time with them, you’d consider them your best friend, even your soul mate. Sure, you have your ups and downs, but essentially the love is still just as strong, just as real as when you first fell in love with each other.
But people say that with time this love fades, and it’s replaced by a different kind of love, security and comfort. The only problem is, what if you don’t want that love to fade? What if you’re looking for, longing for, that ever after love, that whole, consuming love. You know. Like Edward and Bella? Only more real, and less….obsessive. Does it exist at all? Do you know of anyone who has been together for years and are still completely and hopelessly in love with each other? How do they do it? Do you believe in true love? Is it naive to think it’s out there?
I read a comment on mamamia once from a woman who’d been married to the same person for decades, and still felt completely into him. She “still got shivers” whenever she looked at him and still saw him to be the “most beautiful person in the world”. To me this means that love does exist. Is it rare? Are there others out there?
Don’t get me wrong. I love my husband. We complement each other, and we bring a kind of balance to our relationship: grounded, stable and realistic on one side; impulsive, adventurous and ambitious on the other. In the bigger picture we compromise so we can both have what we want. We love each other but aren’t gooey and obsessive about it. But we’re so not romantic. Sadly. I’d like to be more so, but hello, where is the time? It is simply that I am his wife, he is my husband. We are together, we know each other inside out, we are comfortable. It’s certainly no fairytale love. But as I said, does that even exist?
Do you ever look at someone and think “wow, they are soul mates”? Do you even believe in soul mates?